Big Money, Small Dates: A High‑Level Romance Under Scrutiny

A senior counterterrorism official in Washington has denied wrongdoing after a former partner raised concerns that she used him for expensive gifts and travel. The case began when the official, who works as Deputy Assistant Homeland Security Secretary for Counterterrorism, met a divorced business executive on the dating app Hinge in December. Their brief affair lasted about three months and ended when the man filed a formal complaint with DHS. The executive, named Robert B. , claims he spent roughly $40, 000 on the relationship. He says she asked for money to cover vacations in Italy, San Diego, South Carolina and Aruba, as well as pricey items such as a $3, 500 Bottega handbag and high‑end jewelry. He also says she wanted to use his credit card for shopping, which led to tension and eventually a breakup.

The DHS Office of Inspector General is now looking into whether the official’s online dating activities might pose a national security risk. The investigation was prompted by reports that she repeatedly asked for financial support, even during a federal shutdown when her agency’s funding was uncertain. She allegedly texted him for large sums to pay rent and purchase luxury goods, which he says caused the relationship to deteriorate. The official has defended herself by saying she never intended a “sugar daddy” arrangement and that it is normal for partners to share credit access. She claims she was simply looking for help during a difficult time, not seeking exploitation. The complaint filed by the executive alleges that her financial dependence could create a security vulnerability. The DHS OIG has not confirmed or denied the existence of an investigation, citing policy. Representatives from the department have not responded to requests for comment, and attempts to contact either party were unsuccessful.

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