Dating Apps: What Men Say That Pushes Women Away

Life has been tough lately. Juggling work, kids, and personal health can get really overwhelming. But when it comes to dating, one thing that really irks many women is when men expect them to be something they're not. After a divorce and raising kids into their teens, a woman finds herself in a place where she's busy, driven, and serious about life. She doesn't want to pretend to be someone breezy and uncomplicated just to fit a man's idea of what he wants.

Why should women dumb themselves down? They're complex, intense, and take their roles as parents and professionals seriously. A recent date with a neuroscientist showed how men often try to avoid serious talks, like about their past relationships, by showing off funny pet videos instead. It's as if being their authentic selves is too much. But women aren't doing anything wrong by taking life seriously. It's just part of growing and learning. The expectation to be unserious feels off. It's like asking women to ignore their experiences and feelings just to keep a man interested. That's not fair. Women want someone who appreciates their complexity, not someone who expects them to be something they're not.

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